• Over the past few years, I've attended at least nine weddings without giving a single gift.
• I typically have to travel great distances to attend my friends' weddings, which can get expensive.
• None of my friends have brought up not receiving a wedding gift from me.

My 20s and 30s have been riddled with invitations —  weekends booked with bachelorette parties, bridal showers, and weddings that stretch from one coast to the other.

Like many young people, I followed all the unspoken rules: show up, look good, and don't forget the gift. I felt obligated and, to be honest, wanted to give the impression that I, too, "had it all together."

Weddings are treated as a grand rite of passage into adulthood, and buying a gift felt like a way to show I was on the same page.

But as the invitations kept coming, so did the reality check. I wanted to be present for my friends, but the cost of attending, participating when asked, and buying a gift for weddings just wasn't compatible with my own lifestyle goals.

So, rather than resent my loved ones for the monetary burden, I opted out: no more wedding gifts. In the past six years, I've attended at least nine weddings without giving a single gift — and I have no regrets.

In my mind, the act of giving gifts at a wedding is outdated

Wedding gifts were originally intended to help newlyweds establish their first adult household. It made sense for guests to chip in on matching dishes or a set of good knives, but let's be real — times have changed.

Most of my partnered friends have built their homes and intertwined their lives long before saying "I do."

There's also a broader cultural shift to consider. Millennials and Gen Z are facing a different economic reality than previous generations.

Student loans, stagnant wages, and rising costs of living have made it harder for many of us to achieve the financial stability our parents had by the same age.

And yet, many expectations on how we spend our money for and at weddings have persisted.

I've chosen to be present instead of buying presents

Over the past six years, I've lived in three countries and five cities, including Washington, DC, Belgium, and now Mexico.

Even when I lived stateside, many celebrations required travel to nearby states or across the country. This demanded a lot of time, effort, and careful planning — not to mention money.

No matter the location, I made it a priority to commemorate my friends' milestones with my presence. Together, we reminisced, laughed, and made new memories. In my opinion, no material gift could ever top that.

Gift or no gift, I know my friends still love me

None of my friends have ever mentioned not receiving a gift from me, so out of curiosity, I recently asked a few how they felt about it.

The consensus was that they hadn't even noticed until I mentioned it. They were honored that I made the trip to celebrate with them and didn't care that I showed up empty-handed.

In fact, one friend only realized I didn't bring a gift because I wasn't on her list for thank-you cards. When pressed about the lack of a gift, she reiterated she was not offended, especially because I'd traveled from Mexico to New York for her wedding.

My takeaway is that people who care the most just want you there, standing by their side or leading the charge onto the dance floor.

Of course, when I can't attend, I will mark the occasion with a gift to share in their joy and demonstrate my support despite the distance.

I pride myself on being a good friend; however, I refuse to let societal pressure dictate that my love and friendship must come in the form of cash or a neatly wrapped box.

This story was originally published on February 20, 2025, and most recently updated on May 5, 2025.

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Speaking of leadership changes, Warren Buffett is stepping down as CEO of Berkshire Hathaway. (How's that for a transition?) In today's big story, we're looking at why his successor could face an uphill battle taking over for someone who, according to one Buffett expert, is "literally not replaceable."

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The big story

Bye bye Buffett

A 94-year-old retiring shouldn't be surprising, but Warren Buffett isn't your typical 94-year-old.

Business Insider's Theron Mohamed, who was at Berkshire Hathaway's annual meeting in Omaha, said the crowd was stunned into silence when Buffett first shared the news.

They'd eventually rally to give him two standing ovations (something Buffett, never one to miss a joke, pointed out could be interpreted a couple of different ways).

It didn't end there, as praise poured in from business leaders like Tim Cook, Mark Cuban, and Jamie Dimon.

The adulation is well deserved. Berkshire's Class A stock has risen roughly 5,500,000% under Buffett from 1965 through 2024, compared to around a 39,000% increase for the S&P 500.

But the question remains: What's life without Warren going to be like?

Luckily for Berkshire backers, Buffett spent the past few years succession planning.

Greg Abel, the company's vice chair of non-insurance operations since 2018 and the chair of Berkshire Hathaway Energy, is Buffett's pick to fill his proverbial shoes.

The 62-year-old was first identified as Buffett's heir-apparent back in 2021. Abel even has a similar small-town vibe as Buffett. He lives in Des Moines, Iowa, and has previously been described as a "regular guy."

Still, Alice Schroeder, Buffett's friend and biographer, told BI's Katherine Tangalakis-Lippert the legendary investor is "literally not replaceable."

In Omaha, many of Buffett's shareholders told Theron they were sad but grateful, and some were worried about the future.

Succeeding a high-profile executive is no picnic. Some big-name CEOs have found themselves returning to the helm of their old company. Disney's Bob Iger and Starbucks' Howard Schultz are two recent examples.

Abel is also stepping into a unique role that has thrived on being somewhat hands-off. Despite having nearly 400,000 employees across the companies it owns, Berkshire has only a few dozen employees working at its corporate headquarters.

And while that might be viewed as a benefit for Abel, knowing when to step back can sometimes be just as hard as knowing when to step in.

There's also the added complication of Berkshire's sheer size. With a market cap north of $1 trillion, investing opportunities that move the needle for the massive conglomerate are becoming few and far between.

The value-focused investing that drove Berkshire to astronomical heights is also becoming harder to execute with valuations so high. It's why the company's cash pile, which currently stands at nearly $350 billion, continues to climb.

Still, Buffett seems confident in Abel's ability to take the torch, and if there's one thing investors have learned during his tenure: Don't bet against Buffett.

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3. All eyes on LA. The annual Milken conference at the Beverly Hilton in Los Angeles kicks off today, and BI's Bradley Saacks will be covering it all for us. Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent's chat with host Michael Milken opens the event and will set the tone for a conference that attracts the biggest names in the finance and business world.against Buffett.

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1. RIP Skype. After 22 years in operation, Skype will be laid to rest today, adding another tombstone to the graveyard of early-2000s tech services millennials loved and left behind. Here's a look at Skype's rise and decline amid a sea of video-calling competitors.

2. An AI fix for a tedious legal task. Due diligence — when attorneys comb through thousands of pages before a deal is finalized — is a necessary but lengthy process for M&A lawyers. Startup Marveri has secured $3.2 million to revolutionize it with AI.

3. ChatGPT is great, but don't overuse it. OpenAI recently scrapped an update that made its chatbot a bit too friendly. The mistake is a good reminder: We shouldn't rely on ChatGPT in vulnerable moments. That's what human connection is for, BI's Alistair Barr writes.

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3 things in business

1. Everyone is stuck in their jobs. Americans are grumpy because they can't change jobs, and now, Trump's tariffs could make the Big Stay even worse. Pent-up bitterness in the office isn't just bad for the employees who feel stuck — it's bringing morale down for everyone else.

2. No more endless choices? American shoppers love having lots of options, but Trump's tariffs could soon change that. Whenever you're looking for a new pair of jeans in the near future, it's likely you'll have far less options to choose from.

3. Starbucks wants to bring "aperitivo" to the US. CEO Brian Niccol said he's looking to bring late afternoon bites, similar to its European menus, to US locations. BI's Katie Notopoulos checked out what the chain currently offers — and what could be worth bringing from Europe.

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What's happening today

• Sean 'Diddy' Combs is on trial on charges of racketeering and sex trafficking.
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